It’s sometimes overwhelming for us as adults to witness the stories of war, natural disaster or crime that fill the daily newscast. For kids, exposure to these images and information can be unsettling and traumatic. Let’s keep these things in mind as we watch the news together with our kids:
Limit their exposure
The news is a 24-hour business, and major events are shown repeatedly. Seeing the scenes again and again might lead children to believe that traumatic events are an everyday occurrence. All of us, but particularly children, have a limit to the graphic images we can tolerate. Turn off the TV and limit exposure to images and sounds that may upset children.
Explain what happened.
If your child asks for an explanation to something they see, use language and words he or she can easily understand. Explain the basics – just what’s appropriate for their age level. For young children, they may not understand that what they see on TV is not necessarily happening nearby.
Take their fears seriously.
Your children will look to you for guidance in the event of upsetting news. If they are upset, acknowledge and listen to their fears. Don’t ignore or laugh off your children’s concerns. If their behavior changes after seeing or hearing about a major news event, they may be trying to process the information.
Encourage your child to talk about what they are thinking. Hearing their perspective will help you decide how much information you want to share. Then help them understand that their fears and concerns are normal by sharing how you felt when you heard about the event.
If your child, or yourself, still struggles to come to grips with difficult circumstances, seek out help through professional assistance. Your school’s guidance office can tell you what support the school may be offering to all students, whether in the wake of tragic events, or at any time during the school year. Your family physician or clergy member may also be able to offer help and support to you and your family.
Learn together.
Some older children may want to learn more about the event or its underlying causes. It may help ease their fears to understand what causes an earthquake or tornado, for example. This may be more challenging in instances of violence. It’s OK to tell your child that you do not know why something has happened. Regardless of the cause, however, you can remind them that it is not common to experience these events.
Keep your regular schedule.
If your child is upset by an event they saw in the news, keep your day-to-day schedule as normal and routine as possible. If bedtime or leaving for school become difficult transitions for your child, spend some extra time to help her for a few days.
Encourage play.
Play is kids’ way to work through lots of things, including fears and worries. If your child re-enacts the news, pretending to be a firefighter or EMT, encourage it. Step in only if playtime gets aggressive toward other children.
Look for the positive.
Look for the positive parts of unsettling news. Talk with your children about the people who come to help those in trouble instead of focusing on the negative aspects of the event.
Be part of the solution.
The response to any event should spark a conversation about how you and your children can help. Can you donate money or time, or get involved in efforts to find a cure or solution to the problem? Use the news to help your children find ways to connect with the world and help make it better.